2 posts tagged “marvin gaye”
I have to give Nike mad props for this new advertisement that combines Marvin Gaye singing the national anthem at the NBA All-Star game in 1983 with images of the USA current men's Olympic basketball team. Brilliant!
I recently became involved with a very beautiful and interesting woman here in New Mexico and we shared several beautiful times and experiences together and I believe I was beginning to fall in love with her. However we crashed and burned fairly quickly (4 meetings over a month and half time frame). The downfall came about due to mistakes I made and the turbulence that is my life right now (i.e. I am unemployed. I am still making adjustments to life in the southwest without family or close friends nearby. I haven't been involved in a serious relationship with a woman over several years).
I've done almost everything I can to try and get this woman to see how very sorry I am for having hurting her and allowing my emotional baggage and the airing of my dirty laundry before her to infect and destroy what could have been a very beautiful relationship with her. She still remains convinced that she can't forget the negativity of our recent past and feels that she is unwilling to continue to pursue a relationship with me. I am in a great deal of pain surrounding these recent events. Heartache, unrequited love, and seperation are all part of the emotional pain of romance that time and space seem to be the only things that bring about healing.
It's interesting to have had various conversations with family members, friends, and even strangers about how to handle the situation. While there have been varying opinions and suggestions, there is a ubiquitous phrase that many have said ... "James ... you just have to let go and move on." I love how people say this and seem to think that one can just do this. One friend even suggested not listening to music during this time of "letting go and moving on". Those of you who know me can understand that music is something that is so intrinsic to my life that not listening is virtually impossible.
Music has been a source of inspiration for me during this period but I will admit that listening to certain "love" songs often makes me think of the situation I am in with this woman. Stevie Wonder, Marvin Gaye, Ben Harper, and Nina Simone have been heavy in the rotation lately. Stevie Wonder's "As" from 'Songs in the Key of Life' is such a poignant statement of eternal and defiant love. Marvin Gaye's "Distant Lover" is a fairly point on plea from a man yearning for a lost lover or woman who has distanced herself. Nina Simone's "I Want More" describes the hunger and yearning for the physical side of romance. Nonetheless, it's Ben Harper's "Walk Away" that mostly truly describes what I am going through right now.
Here are the lyrics:
"Walk Away" - Ben Harper
"Oh no- here comes that sun again.
And (that) means another day without you my friend.
And it hurts me to look into the mirror at myself.
And it hurts even more to have to be with somebody else.
And it's so hard to do and so easy to say.
But sometimes - sometimes,
you just have to walk away - walk away.
With so many people to love in my life, why do I worry about one?
But you put the happy in my ness, you put the good times into my fun.
And it's so hard to do and so easy to say.
But sometimes - sometimes,
you just have to walk away - walk away and head for the door.
We've tried the goodbye so many days.
We walk in the same direction so that we could never stray.
They say if you love somebody than you have got to set them free,
but I would rather be locked to you than live in this pain and misery.
They say time will make all this go away,
but it's time that has taken my tomorrows and turned them into yesterdays.
And once again that rising sun is droppin' on down
And once again, you my friend, are nowhere to be found.
And it's so hard to do and so easy to say.
But sometimes, sometimes you just have to walk away, walk away and head for the door.
You just walk away - walk away - walk away.
You just walk away, walk on, turn and head for the door."
It really is so hard to do and much easier to say but I am trying to just walk away ... I am trying to "let go and move on". A very hard lesson has been learned from this brief encounter with this woman. I only hope that in letting go and moving on that I am opening up my life for improvement and the possibility that life will send me someone again that moved me in the way I was moved by this woman.
Ah ... love can be a hurting thing ...
